DOES LOVE GUARANTEE SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP?

DOES LOVE GUARANTEE SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP? 

Introduction:

I have discovered that love does not guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person all years round, and on the other hand, cheating is not always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving someone does not guarantee not falling in love with someone else.

Relationship works out mostly, because of our head not our heart. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline, because time will come when you will see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you are in a relationship with.

In those time, love will not help you, self control will help you. Emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going. With those characteristics of relationship imbibed, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you are committed to will rank first in your life.

You think happily married people do not see better people than the one they married? You think they do not feel funny sometimes?That they do not catch feelings? Oh yes they do!

But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that do destroy that impulse. You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.

Realities of relationship

We are too fond of loving when its convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there. but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, you will realize that the feelings have dropped, its now your individual responsibilities to make it work, not love responsibility.

Relationship cannot be ready made. You have to build it and it never always only about love, it requires commitment ant intelligence. On the long run in marriages, its not just love that keep them together forever, its determination and commitment.

Everyone falls in love, it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that.

That is why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions. To build a relationship is hard work. Its like building a career, its like pursing a dream. Its always tough, at some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your head together. You can scale through time of being focus and committed. The kind of love that attract two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Most love fades with harsh circumstances and emotional conflicts. Be emotionally strong and be self disciplined.

Realities of sex in relationship

A man can cheat on his woman and still love her but a woman cannot cheat on her man and still love him. I say this because while most men do  have sex without emotion, women can not have sex without attaching emotions to it. This is the reason men simply need a place to have sex while women need a reason to have sex.

Most women who take their husband to court for divorce are those that cheat on their men. A non cheating wife would most likely never take her husband to court for divorce, unless the man exceedingly abuse her physically and emotionally to the point of killing her.

Men don’t equate sex with love. A man can have sex with another, but still doesn’t love her. That is why women who fell in love with married men find it difficult to find happiness in those relationships at home  as they are just being used by the married men. More so, once a married woman start sleeping with you, she can even narrate some hidden secrets concerning her husband and even tell you why she hates him. She can even accept poison from you to eliminate her husband. The realities of sex about women.

For men, sex and love are two different things. But, for women they are the same. For men sex comes first before love (infatuation). However, for women not the same; love comes first before sex (true love). Therefore, once your woman starts having sex with another man, her love shifts from you to that man and she can even start giving that man the best food and love than she ever gives to you.

The fact that your man is cheating on you doesn’t mean he has stopped loving you. But, I cannot say the same for woman. Once a woman starts cheating on you, she has fallen for someone else and you will never live the same again. She can even kill her husband once she starts cheating on him.
That is why it is now encouraged everywhere in the world including in the Bible, for a man to divorce his wife only once she starts cheating on him. Cheating women are more deadly to husband than criminal with  weapon.

There are many cheating women in the world who invite criminals to break into her house at night only to come and steal; from her man eliminate him and police officers plus relatives cannot detect this as the same woman tends to moan and mourn more than any person at the funeral to attract sympathy and hide her evil acts.

Signs of a cheating wife

Psychologists discourage women more than men, from cheating. Because women cannot handle emotional conflict that comes with cheating.

1. An observant and intelligent man will notice that his wife started cheating on him once she starts doing it, because most women tend to lose respect for their husband

2. Cheating women will even be giving excuse for not wanting to have or try to avoid sex with their husbands.

Study has revealed that nearly 90 percent of women who cheat find it hard to have enjoyable sex with their husbands, again an intelligent man will detect this once his wife’s behaviour with regard to sex and intimacy start changing.

3. It is also observed that a woman suddenly start nagging and find whatever the husband do irritated once her feelings for the man has been transferred to another man.

But a servile man can never detect this and always tolerate fake excuses from his cheating wife until he is completely eliminated.

Findings

Women cannot cheat on their partner with people they are not emotionally involved with. They attach emotions to everything. That is why you cannot always trust their judgement. When a joke is cracked, most women who laugh are not laughing because the joke is funny, but because they like the person who cracked the joke. If they do not like you, no matter how funny your joke may be, they will not laugh. But when a man laughs at a joke, its simply because its funny. Men are not always sentimental and emotionally involved.

Study has shown that every relationship begins to flounder once a woman starts cheating. There are many men who cheat on their partners, but still show them much love. This can not be the same for women, because they are always sentimentally and emotionally involved.

I repeat, nearly 100 percent of cheating women wish their husbands quick death or divorce just to have emotional and unlimited sex freedom, while nearly 100 percent cheating men cannot wish their wives such, because to them sex is just a game. That is why most men cannot allow their wives to be physically or verbally abused by their girlfriends. Men will always stand for their wives.

A man would cheat but still love and respect his wife, but the opposite is not true with cheating women. Once your wife starts sleeping with other men, just know that your death is near.

Conclusion

If a relationship is to survive the emotional conflicts that from time to time hit unions; self control, commitment and emotional intelligence are the qualities partners or couples should be diligently and consistently watch out for in that relationship.